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Team 1 Moral Development, Values and Religion
There are three types of parental discipline techniques, love withdrawal, power assertion, and induction. Reseach the three and choose one to discuss. Explain whether you think it is an effective technique to use or not.
Withdrawal of affection: Turning a deaf ear to children, refusal to speak to children, threats to leave children, showing dislike, or vocalizing expressions of disappointment. My same aunt might say, "Not even God could love you, child, when you act like that," or "Just think of how disappointed God is in you today."
ReplyDeleteWithdrawal of affection: The adults who practice this discipline style often give children the proverbial "cold shoulder" when inappropriate behavior occurs. As a consequence, children conform to expectations because they fear abandonment or the loss of adults' love and affection. Love withdrawal produces another external motivation for appropriate behavior with the same results as power disciplines: children who engaged in inappropriate behavior when they thought they would not be caught.
Team 1
ReplyDeleteInduction- A discipline technique in which a parent uses reason and explanation of the consequences for others of a child's action.
We agree with this technique because parents should use reason and explanation of a child's action.
Uncover the child's interests and explore the options. Then agree on a solution.
Team 1 agrees with Marci Van Gilder love withdrawal.
ReplyDeleteInduction- I think this is the best technique to use reasoning with. Adolescents are able to put theirselves in "another's shoes". They can relate. Explaining the consequence and then talking about it, let's them know the process. Everything is not as cut and dry. Most of the time there are reason's for actions.
ReplyDeleteErica Neal agrees with team one's. We are on the same page about induction and why reasoning is important.
ReplyDeleteI picked induction because it's reasoning with the child and explaining the effects of their behavior. It uses patience and gentle persuasion to encourage desired behavior. A child needs to understand why their behavior is not acceptable, so it's a good idea for parents to explain it to them and not by screaming and yelling at them.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Erica, you should explain the consequence and then talk to your child. You should find out why the child behaved like they did. Talk to them.
ReplyDeleteAfter researching and reading about the three techniques of parenting I like induction the best. This includes reasoning with children and helping them understand the effects of their behavior on others. It says that this type of control results mostly in socially competent children. This is the positive power parents should have an reinforce.
ReplyDeleteI agree with MArci Van GIlder's comment about love withdrawal. I do not think it is a good use of power when it comes to parenting especially if the restuls are not postive.
ReplyDeleteNice job Marci, looks like you were thinking along the same lines as I was.
ReplyDeleteI Pick induction. I completely agree with we need to explain to children why it's wrong and what the consequences may be. If you talk with your children and make sure they understand what there behavior my cause for others.
ReplyDeleteMaking sure children understand their consequences is very important. Understanding why they are getting punished is extremely important too.
ReplyDeleteWithdrawl is when the child typically gets ingored by the parent. Or that they are getting yelled at with horrible reasoning behind it like Marci was saying about the parent saying "What would God think about your today?" Etc.
I definitely don't agree with that style of parenting and often hate being put in those situations of experiencing it.
The withdrawl approach is very interesting because as much as the child is torn down by disappointing their parents, the parent is actually hurt in this process as well. The kids usually will try to correct the problem that they have called on their own because of the guilt that had been instilled from the incident.
ReplyDeleteI saw aimee's comment and i am no parent but to me the parents that try to work things out with their kids usually have spoiled kids as well as disrespectful kids.
ReplyDeletehttp://family.jrank.org/pages/1244/Parenting-"Education-Content-Parenting-Education.html
ReplyDeleteThe third type of control is induction. Induction includes reasoning with children and helping them understand the effects of their behavior on others. For example, a parent might say, "When you yell at your sister, she feels very afraid and sad. She feels that you don't like her." Induction is the type of control that is most likely to result in socially competent children.
There are also clear benefits for a child's moral development when a parent uses induction because induction teaches children to think about the effect of their behavior on others. Induction both activates and cultivates the child's own logic and compassion. Children raised with induction are more likely to have internalized standards for behavior, better developed moral sensitivities, and less vulnerability to external influence."
I really think that this form of parenting would work great. I think, however, that parents use the parenting style that is appropriate at the time. It is good to explain to your child why he is getting punished, and let him know if he is hurting another, but in some cases I think it is very hard to be patient! I think sometimes a firmer use of discipline is necessary depending on what the child has done.
I like induction, this allows the adolescent or child to so empathy or someone else being able to put themselves into other persons shoes. This allows the adolescent an opportunity to experience thoughts and feeligs of others, and also gives them a different view to problem solve from.
ReplyDeleteAimee,
ReplyDeleteI agree with you induction, allows others to deal with situations from anothers perspective as well as allowing them to experience the consquences for actions.
In my opinion induction is the best method however, most people that I know albiet inadvertantly use the love withdrawl or power assertion methods. I see alot of parent using the love withdrawl method and it can really scar a child permantly. There are some children that no matter what they do cannot live up to their parents expectations.
ReplyDeleteThe love withdrawal technique I feel is wrong I don't think any parent should make their child think that they won't love them anymore if they do something wrong.
ReplyDeleteI agree with those of you that chose induction we do need to tell our child why they should or shouldn't do things. Don't just scream at them.
ReplyDeleteKyndra I agree this does teach them empathy.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree that the withdrawl technique is not a good technique. I see parents that use that technique and the effects it has on their kids. After reading these technique I use the induction technique. I try to talk to my kids about the situation and what the consequences will be. But we also talk to them about positive situations that happen too. For example when there is a situation at school with a friend I always try and look at the situation from all sides. Asking him how he would feel if someone did it to him. We have a rule that we have to do or say 10 positive things everyday.
ReplyDeleteDonna I agree with you on the love withdrawl technique as I mentioned earlier I see some parents do this to their kids and it bothers me alot. I have had to remind them at times that these kids are 12 and they need to give them a break. There was one time I remember when our friends son had a bad day at a basketball game and his dad was all over him at the end of the game. It bothered me very much.
ReplyDeleteI feel an inductive approach to discipline is very helpful for both the parent and child. Instead of punishing a child for breaking a specific rule without prior knowledge of whether the child even understands the rule, this approach is based on explanation from the parent and understand of the child. For this technique to work the lines of communication must be open, honest, and strong. This discipline doesn't rely on misbehavior to occur, but instead is discussed and used out of love at all times. Through, experience and consistency the child will learn the proper behavior from the guidance of their parents.
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Wetzel,
ReplyDeleteI also agree with you that induction is the best technique, but definitely the least often used. This is because of the difficulty level of it. It isn't easy to constantly keep your cool and teach you child at all times. We all have emotions and they often get the better of us, especially our anger and frustration.
I choose the Power Assertion. Power Assertion is a discipline technique in which a parent attempts to gain control over the adolescent or the adolescent's resources. I don't necessarily believe that you should spank a child every time that they do something wrong, however raising my children they obtained plenty of time outs. There are rules and boundaries in every home and consequences that followed their choices and behaviors. I recently spoke with my grandmother and she informed me that, "we spanked our children, part of the problem with children today is the lack of discipline and no respect for their parents." She also said,"You can love and discipline at the same time." I totally agree with that.
ReplyDeleteJarrod,
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you. You can try to reason with your children, however, you are the parent and when you have thought about a certian situation and made a decision, you go with your decision. I believe that communicaiton is relavent, however, children are manipulative at times and you have to recognize this.
I also feel that the child should know what the consequence to their actions will be and it should be explained to them I think that communication is the key
ReplyDeleteFollowing my research of the three, I agree that induction is the best and most effective technique. First, though, I feel parents need to agree on what the rules and boundaries are, and what the consequences will be. Parents need to inform their children what is expected of them and invite them to help in making rules when appropriate. I think if expectations are known, it's easier for the child to follow them.
ReplyDeleteErica, I'm with you. I think the child's actions, poor choices and behavior should be talked about and discussed. Explain the rules or boundaries that were violated and apply the appropriate consequence.
ReplyDeleteAs many others have stated already, I also believe that induction is the best parental discipline approach of the three. I think that informing a child “verbally” why he or she should or shouldn’t do certain things is a more effective disciplinary technique as opposed to the actions associated with power assertion and love withdrawal. Trying to explain to a child the rights and wrongs by rationally explaining to him or her the “rules” is more appropriate than threatening, spanking, withholding attention, etc. I know that some parental disciplinary techniques are somewhat controversial, but I don’t think that there is much controversy associated with induction because it really doesn’t involve any highly controversial aspects regarding child discipline. Also, I think it is probably the most effective technique a parent can use in most situations, and it is definitely the most ethically acceptable technique of the three as well.
ReplyDeletePam,
ReplyDeleteI also agree that induction is the best parental disciplinary technique, and it is probably the most effective in many situations as well. I totally agree with your statement—“I think if expectations are known, it’s easier for the child to follow them.” Having “rules” and “boundaries” set in place for children is great, and making sure that they know the repercussions when rules are broken beforehand is necessary for a successful parent/child relationship in my opinion. I think that most disciplinary circumstances can be handled by using the induction technique (or they should be), and that communicating with children is essential to effective parenting.
I think the "love withdrawl" technique should not be used because it leaves children afraid that their parents won't love them or won't be there if something bad happens or if they do something wrong. Children should always feel that they are safe and belong in their home, no matter what they have done. Giving children the cold shoulder and refusing to speak to them or threatening to leave them is not fostering a positive, healthy relationship. That child can't trust the parent from one moment to the next and is very much less likely to trust them and come to them with their problems.
ReplyDeletePower assertion involves the use of physical punishment, force, threat, and the removal of privileges or material possessions. This is a big topic of discussion, whether to spank a child or not. I know that I was spanked whenever I was young and it worked. I knew if I did this..then I would get spanked and I didn't like that at all. This new parenting thing, talking to your child, telling them to stop or whatever doesn't always work. I go to the grocery store and I see kids out of control because they run all over the parents. I don't see it as a bad thing at all..I think my parents did the right thing.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Elizabeth. I see this with my boyfriends relationship with his dad. His dad always gives him the cold shoulder and never speaks to him when we go over there to visit. He got so bad to where my boyfriend had to move out a few months ago. I hate that for a child. I think that a parent should always always be there for their child no matter how old they are. He feels distant from his dad because of this love withdrawl.
ReplyDeleteTiffany Jones,
ReplyDeleteTo remove your love from someone would have to be the a harsh punishment for anyone let alone a child. When someone would decided to remove their love that can be a very hard decision to make. I understand the "tough love" technique. Whatever punishment parents should choose I guess it would upon the type of up brining and child that they have
I chose induction also. I feel that a child needs know why what he/she did was wrong. They need to have an explanation whether it be for hurting someones feelings or hurting them physically. This works best with older children they have a better concept of understanding the reason for what they did being wrong.
ReplyDeleteIf I had to remove would it would be the love withdrawl technique should not be used because it leaves children afraid that their parents won't love them or won't be there if something bad happens or if they do something wrong.
ReplyDeleteIt's important that children feel comofortable with their parents at all times even if they did make a mistake.
Ignoring the issue will get nowhere and solve nothing. It drives me crazy when people act like if you don't talk about it, things will be alright...WRONG...you have to talk it out so that everyone gets an understanding of what's going on and that hopefully leaves everyone less stressed and feeling better in the end!
I also agree with Michelle. I too, feels that a child needs to know what they did and why it's wrong. So they know later to not make the same mistake.
my team's blog posting.
ReplyDelete'Parents who use love withdrawal show disapproval and suspend their loving attention until the behavior changes. For example, they might refuse to talk to their child until she complies. Research on the effectiveness of this approach shows mixed results, but they do indicate a child may suffer from excessive guilt if frequently disciplined this way.'
ReplyDeleteI found this information on a family website. I think the effectiveness of this method would be determined by the child, the situation, and the frequency of use. This may be something that could be used with some children but I think it would be very important to not use this very often. If used often, it may affect the child's self-esteem and they may wonder if their parents really care about them. If used rarely, it may be effective. By not coddling the child, and babying them, they may realize that their parent is serious about the behavior they want to be changed. If they are always excessively loving, no matter the situation, the child may think they can get away with anything and do not need to be disciplined.
I chose to discuss the "love withdrawal" parenting technique. I do not rally believe this is a good parenting technique. Even if your child does something wrong I do not believe that you should refuse to talk to your child or even state that you dislike your child. I can understand explaining to your child that you did not like his actions, but to state that you dislike your child is just cruel.
ReplyDeleteBeth,
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree that t would affect the child's self-esteem and how their parents really feel about them. It just seems to me that this method just would be distance between you and your child.
Erica Neal,
ReplyDeleteI agree that induction seems to be one of the better methods. I believe explaining things so the child understands the situation is a good way to get the point across.
I feel that induction is the best method!! I feel that if you don't explain the situation and make sure the child understands it, then you are talking to the wall!! Adolescents are in such a tough place and have so much information to comprehend and take in, that it is important to make sure they understand the more important moral's of life!!
ReplyDeletePam, I agree with your posting that it is important to set clear expectations and let the child know what is expected of them!
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