Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Team 6 Adolescent Problems
What "major" stressors did you experience as an adolescent? Did you feel comfortable in talking to your parents about your situation? If not, was there another trusting adult you could go to? How did you cope with, or what stress management technique did you use, during this "major" stressor?
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I am an overly stressed out person, so everything in adolescence stressed me out: tests, dates, friends, and so on. I'm lucky I had my parents to talk to and they got my through a lot of those times. If I was super stressed out, I would cry and then I feel would ten times better, weird I know. Just talking to mom or dad made feel better too.
ReplyDeleteAs an adolescent I didn't much get stressed out. I have never had to be in a unbearable situation and to this day don't really feel any amounts of stress in my life. Heck, I lost my job three months ag and still feel little to no stress about it. My mom was always the go to person with any issues. She had a very open relationship with me and my brother and we feel very fortunate to have her as our mother.
ReplyDeleteI would stress out about school the most. I was always a good student, did well on my homework, but never a good test taker. So I had to spend many evenings studying just for a test. I would stress out about that. My mom was always there for me though. She would help me study or do whatever she could to help me out.
ReplyDeleteAmber..I don't know how you keep your stress level down that low! That would be absolutely amazing! I need to know how you do it!
ReplyDeleteI don't recall being very stressed as an adolescent I mean I worried about tests and when projects were due but I didn't stress over them
ReplyDeleteI was insecure about my weight. I compared myself to my friends. I was always active. Looking back I was not fat, I was healthy and built totally different than my friends. I never talked about it with my parents. I tried dieting and exercise. However, I was rarely successful.
ReplyDeleteamiee, i so understand! i stress over everything and as i got older, it became a little easier to cope with situations. Through experience and listening to advise from your parents it will get easier to cope. You just hav eto find what works for you. Try to have a positive attitude and think rationally. It helps when stressed to the max.
ReplyDeleteLike most have said, I am always stressed even by little things. I think I am a more stressed person now then when I was a tenn but I still let things get to me like homework and peers and sports. I'm one that eats when I'm stressed which is not good for the waist line. My mom was always there but sometiems I didn't feel like she understaood me or was compassionate enough of my feelings so I would talk to friends or my sister because we were close.
ReplyDeleteAmber, I wish I could be as calm as you in stressful situations. Just the fear of my husband losing his job makes me lose sleep. Along with being a stessed out person, I'm also a worrier.
ReplyDeleteThe major stress I had as an adolescent came about when I was 15, and continued on throughout my whole adolescence. I became a teenage mother. So on top of school, I worked and cared for a child. It has made me a very strong person, and it was something I would never change.
ReplyDeleteAimee,
ReplyDeleteI agree I think I stress more now than I did as teenager even though I was a teenage mother. Times today are harder and there is so many things teens today are faced with.
Wow Amber! Please help me be like you!! I would love not to have any stress!!! How do you do it?!!!!
ReplyDeleteI think my biggest stresser as a teen was my weight problems. I was alway over weight and very self-concious of being overweight. My mom was alway there for me also. She would make me clothes that looked like the other girls so I would feel like I fit in.
ReplyDeleteErica I can understand where you are coming from I had the same problem and it was hard to deal with.
ReplyDeleteKyndra, I have a lot of respect for you. It couldn't have been easy to raise a baby and finish school. Keep up the good work. And God Bless You
ReplyDeleteMy biggest stressor as an adolescent was my parents divorce when I was 13. I didn't feel comfortable talking to my parents about this because it was basically their fault I was stressed and because I didn't want to hurt their feelings telling them how upset I was with both of them. I actually talked to my brothers about it because two of them are a lot older than I am and were already moved out when my parents split. I coped with my stressor by trying to look at the bright side of things and realizing that it happened for a reason.
ReplyDeleteToday I am a huge stressor so Amber, I definitly want to learn how you do it!
ReplyDeleteMy biggest stressor also was when my parents got divorced. I was 14 years old when this happened. I lived in Alabama with my parents and we moved back to WV when allof this began to take place. I did talk about this with a Pastor that I knew. I had known her all my life and felt very comfortable talking to her. At first I totally disconnected with everyone, however, being able to talk to someone really helped.
ReplyDeleteKyndra,
ReplyDeleteI can see that the situation that you were in as a teen, shaped your character for today. Always, you can take a negative situation and make it positive.
i agree. i think divorce at any age is difficult on children. especially teens. it's something that stays with you all through your adult life. it gets a little easier to cope if you have support.
ReplyDeleteMy major stressor was the fact that my grandparents raised me. now granted I love them dearly and would not have changed it for the world, but I could not talk to them about things i was going through. Maybe they would have understood, but so many issues were hush hush in the house. we had to be montiored on what we watched on tv all hte time. they did not want us exposed to sex or any issues revolving around sex. so i did not feel comfortable talking to them. I would ask my friends or friends mom if i had question.
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ReplyDeleteMy major stressor, this is going to sound so lame haha, was that I never felt pretty enough and I had no confidence whatsoever. I always saw girls at my school with new boyfriends every other week! Definitely made my confidence go down. Eventually whenever I was in 8th grade I started realizing that I was happy to be who I was and happy to look the way I did.
Now that I think about it, I was probably just a normal adolescent with normal problems.
I had no stress when I was an adolescent! SYYYYYKE! I'm sure we all have in some ways. I was involved with tons of sports and clubs so, I don't know that I was stressed but just constantly nervous or worried about something. I have two older sisters which is stressful becasue people tend to compare you to them.
ReplyDeleteI dealt with school stress through the sports I played. After a rough day at school I would go to practice and release off of my negative energy and it felts amazing..It's what I do now. Going to the gym is an amazing stress reliever!
I guess I just had the normal stress during adolescence. The typical school, worried about friendships, and family expectations. Sometimes I felt like I couldn't live up to the expectations that were set but it wasn't because of my parents being extraordinarily pressuring but mostly worry and things I set up for myself. I still have a tendency to worry about a lot of things, most of which don't really matter in the end or in the big picture. I was the youngest and was the one who was supposed to do well in school.
ReplyDeleteI dealt with my stress by talking with close friends and sometimes journaling. That sounds pretty adolescent but sometimes it helped to just write things down.
I was a very stressed out adolescent I had to live with my grandmother due to a bad situation with my parents. I was able to talk to my grandmother as well as my aunt when I needed to vent about what was going on.
ReplyDeleteWow Jeana your were VERY lucky to have had such a stress free youth. And you are right about going to the gym to work of stress I do it all the time.
ReplyDeleteI will be honest, I really do not remember much stressing me out. Now as an adult, I do get stressed. If something by chance did stress me out, I never really felt comfortable talking to anyone. During adolescence most of my stress came from home, so school just did not seem so tough.
ReplyDeleteBeth,
ReplyDeleteI agree sometimes friends are the best way to vent.
Amber,
ReplyDeleteYou were very lucky to have a mother like that. I wish that I would have, but I am trying to be that person for my children, because I know what it is not to have it and I want them to have someone like that.
I didn’t really experience many stressors as an adolescent, but I would never hesitate to talk to my parents if I had a situation I needed some advice about. I guess one thing that stressed me out a little bit was basketball (which was practically my life when I was an adolescent). I had a somewhat conflicting relationship with my head coach my senior year, and I honestly felt like he made my life miserable sometimes because of some of the decisions he made. But, I always try to handle my stress by exercise, and I find it to be very effective. Other than that, I really didn’t have very many stressors as an adolescent because I was a pretty stereotypical “care-free” kid during adolescence.
ReplyDeleteMy major stressor during adolescence was my family life, so I didn't go to my parents or anyone in my family about it. Instead I found solace in other adults like teachers and my friend's parents. I used a lot of suppression while at home and then venting to others later to get through my situation.
ReplyDeleteSheri it sounds like our stressor was the same- our family. I sure wish I would have been able to move into another household like you did with your grandma.
ReplyDeleteI think almost everything was a stress to me when I was an adolescent. From prom to the upcoming algebra test. I knew my parents were always there for me if I needed them and if it was really important I knew I could trust them with anything. Mostly during that time though, I relied heavily on my friends and I had a great boyfriend the last couple of years of high school. They helped me so much with my stresses. I think at that age, I didn't want to go to my parents, I wanted someone my age that knew what I was going through and could relate at the same time.
ReplyDeleteToday, everything about my life is stressful. However, as an adolescent I really don't remember stressing about anything. If I did have problems or questions I would talk to my best friend. I would have not dreamed in a million years of going to my parents...now, I think that is crazy...I could have...but, I didn't.
ReplyDeleteI was always worried about what I looked at and looking back at pictures i was a normal teenager. I was also worried about what people thought but I grew out of that. If you are my friend you like me for who I am.
ReplyDeleteI was always worried about fitting in, grades, how I looked, my weight, how my friends preceived me etc. I had to change schools as blogged about earlier and by the time I started to feel "popular", I had no idea how to talk to my parents or what to say to them. Looking back now I wish I would have been more upfront with them and I probably would have not made the same mistakes in my years!
ReplyDeleteAfter reading all of these posts, you know all the things I stressed about were pretty petty compared to adult life!
ReplyDeleteI was stressed as a child mostly with school, I had to try harder then most. It was easy to discuss things with my parents and they were always receptive to everything that I was attempting
ReplyDeleteI do the same thing Jeanna....gym time or punching bag for stress..haha
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